Series 1.c – Key Gorean Concepts for Beginners: Home Stone, Caste, Natural Order & More

Posted on 2025-12-11 by

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If you’ve read the first two episodes of this series, you already know two things:

  1. Gor is fiction first – a rich, provocative world created by John Norman.
  2. The Gorean lifestyle is not a literal copy of that fiction, but a modern, consensual, adult choice.

In this third episode, we’ll start building your Gorean vocabulary.

We’ll look at some of the core concepts you’ll see again and again – in the books and in Gorean-inspired communities:

  • Home Stone
  • Caste
  • Natural Order
  • Mastery & Submission
  • Free Companionship
  • The Collar & Oath
  • Swords, Cities & Symbols (briefly)

For each one, I’ll explain:

  1. What it means in the world of Gor
  2. How people do (or don’t) use it in real-life Gorean-inspired practice

And along the way, we’ll spend some time demystifying the idea of “Natural Order” – especially the bit about male dominance and female submission.

1. Home Stone – More Than Just a Rock

In the books

On Gor, a Home Stone is a small, usually unremarkable stone that represents:

  • a city, a tribe, a place; or
  • sometimes, a personal oath or chosen home

It’s not the stone itself that matters, but the meaning placed in it.

For a Gorean, to swear by a Home Stone is to swear by everything one holds dear:

their people, their honor, their belonging.

To betray your Home Stone is to betray yourself.

In modern lifestyle practice

Most Gorean-inspired people don’t literally keep a sacred rock on a pedestal (though some do, and there’s nothing wrong with that).

Instead, Home Stone becomes a metaphor for:

  • Chosen loyalty – to a partner, a household, a family, a tribe of close friends
  • Belonging – “This is my home; these are my people.”
  • Shared values – the code that holds a household together

Some couples or households:

  • actually create a physical “Home Stone” as a symbol
  • write a small statement of values or a “House Law” attached to it
  • use it in rituals of commitment, collaring or free companionship

The key idea is simple and powerful:

You don’t just float through life. You stand for something. You belong somewhere by choice.

2. Caste – Role, Duty and Specialization

In the books

Gor is structured by castes – groups defined by their role in society:

  • Warriors
  • Physicians
  • Scribes
  • Builders
  • Merchants
  • And many others (even the Peasants are a proud caste)

Your caste:

  • shapes your education
  • defines your public duties
  • often influences your sense of honor and identity

It’s not just a job; it’s a calling.

In modern lifestyle practice

Obviously, we don’t live in a caste-based city-state system.

But the idea of caste translates into:

  • Admiration for excellence – taking pride in doing something really well
  • Responsibility – knowing what you’re “about” and showing up for it
  • Role clarity – not being ashamed of your natural strengths

Many Gorean-inspired people reflect on questions like:

  • “What is my ‘caste’ in a symbolic sense? Am I a natural protector, healer, organizer, builder, scholar, servant?”
  • “How can I honor that in the way I live, work and relate?”

In households, you might see:

  • the “Warrior” temperament taking the lead in protection and direction
  • the “Scribe” temperament handling records, finances, planning
  • the “Builder” temperament organizing practical projects
  • service-oriented personalities taking pride in domestic and emotional labor

Caste here isn’t about “higher” or “lower” worth. It’s about:

Knowing your strengths and embracing the role that lets you give your best.

3. Natural Order – Not a Weapon, but a Lens

This is one of the most misunderstood ideas in Gor, so let’s take our time.

In the books

John Norman’s Gor is built around the idea of a “Natural Order” – a way things supposedly “are” in terms of:

  • strength and weakness
  • hierarchy and leadership
  • the relationship between man and woman

In the novels, men are generally portrayed as naturally dominant and women as naturally submissive, and the societies of Gor are arranged accordingly.

The fictional world pushes this idea to provocative extremes: slavery, conquest, forced submission. That’s part of what makes it so controversial.

In modern lifestyle practice

Real-world Gorean-inspired people are not living in a novel.

So how do people use “Natural Order” without turning it into a club to hit others with?

Most thoughtful Gorean-inspired practitioners look at it this way:

  1. Humans are not blank slates. We’re shaped by biology and culture. On average, men and women can differ in drives, strengths and inclinations – but with huge overlaps and countless exceptions.
  2. Some people feel deeply “right” in traditional polarity. A man who feels most fully himself when he leads, protects, decides, bears responsibility. A woman who feels most fully herself when she yields, trusts, serves, and offers her feminine strength in devoted support.
  3. For those people, fighting that inner shape can be miserable. When you are wired for deep surrender or strong leadership and you’re told that makes you “wrong”, “weak”, “toxic” or “misogynistic”, you can end up living at war with yourself.
  4. Choosing to honor that inner shape – with consent – can be freeing. A male-led, female-submissive relationship doesn’t have to be about superiority or inferiority. It can be a chosen dance between equals in worth, with different roles.

So in practice, “Natural Order” becomes:

The idea that it is okay – more than okay, deeply healthy for some – to live in alignment with the roles and polarities that feel natural to you, instead of forcing yourself into a politically convenient mold.

Important points:

  • It is not a universal rule that “all men must dominate, all women must submit.”
  • It is not a justification for treating anyone as lesser, disposable or voiceless.
  • It is not an excuse for ignoring consent, law or ethics.

Instead of “Nature says you have to…”, a healthy Gorean-inspired mindset says:

“If, in your nature, you feel called to lead as a man or to submit as a woman, you do not need to be ashamed of that. You can build a conscious, ethical life around it.”

You are always free to say:

  • “That’s not who I am”
  • “I prefer equality in roles”
  • “I’m a dominant woman / submissive man / something else entirely”

The “order” is not a law; it’s a lens through which some people recognize themselves.

4. Mastery & Submission – Power as a Shared Project

In the books

Gor is full of masters and slaves, in very literal, often brutal ways. The master’s will is law; the slave is property.

That’s fiction.

In modern lifestyle practice

Real-world Gorean-inspired dynamics transform that into consensual power exchange:

  • One partner (often male) takes the Dominant / Master / Leader role
  • The other partner (often female) takes the submissive / kajira / slave role
  • Both agree to this dynamic freely and can renegotiate or revoke it if needed

Done well, this is not a one-sided feeding of ego. It’s a shared project:

The dominant / master:

  • takes responsibility for direction, protection, decision-making
  • values the submissive’s well-being, feelings and limits
  • works on his own self-mastery so his power is safe, not chaotic

The submissive / kajira:

  • chooses to obey and serve within agreed boundaries
  • offers trust, vulnerability, devotion and effort
  • finds pride and fulfillment in serving well and surrendering deeply

Both bring strength. Both take risks. Both rely on each other.

Far from being humiliating, many submissive women describe this path as:

“The first time I was allowed to be fully, openly myself – without pretending to be something else to be accepted.”

Again: this is not for everyone. But for those who are wired this way, it can feel like coming home.

5. Free Companionship – Gor’s Version of Marriage

In the books

A Free Companionship is Gor’s closest equivalent to marriage. It is:

  • public
  • formalized
  • often bound by contract and ceremony
  • sometimes limited in duration (for a Gorean year, renewable)

It is a union between Free Persons – traditionally a man and a woman.

In modern lifestyle practice

Some Gorean-inspired couples borrow the term Free Companion to describe:

  • a committed relationship that blends
    • companionship
    • love
    • power exchange (if they choose)
    • shared purpose / “Home Stone”

For some, it’s a way to say:

“We are more than boyfriend/girlfriend, but what binds us is also deeper than a legal certificate.”

A Free Companionship in a modern context may include:

  • personal vows
  • House rules and roles
  • symbols (rings, collars, tokens)
  • domestic structure that reflects their chosen dynamic

You can think of it as:

A partnership where love, commitment and agreed roles are all openly acknowledged and honored.

6. The Collar & Oath – Visible Signs of Invisible Choices

In the books

The collar marks slavery on Gor. A collared woman is legally owned property.

Again: fiction.

In modern lifestyle practice

The collar is one of the most powerful symbols Gorean-inspired people bring into real life – but the meaning changes radically:

  • It becomes a chosen symbol of belonging and commitment
  • It marks an agreement, not a legal status
  • It is placed on someone with their full, informed consent

Being collared in a Gorean-inspired dynamic often means:

  • “I have given myself in service and loyalty to this person/household.”
  • “I accept their authority within agreed boundaries.”
  • “I choose to be marked as theirs.”

For many submissive women, the collar is:

  • a source of pride
  • a reminder of purpose
  • a tangible reassurance of being seen, wanted and held

For the dominant, it is:

  • a reminder of duty
  • a visible sign of the trust placed in him
  • a call to be worthy of that trust

The weight of a collar is not in the metal.

It’s in the oath behind it.

7. Swords, Cities, Priest-Kings & Other Symbols (Very Briefly)

There are many other concepts we’ll explore in future posts:

  • Warriors & Swords – courage, defense, the martial spirit
  • Cities & Ubarates – politics, power, loyalty and betrayal
  • Priest-Kings – mysterious rulers, the limits of human perspective
  • Panther Girls, Kurii, and more – wildness, enemies, and the “others” of Gor

For now, just know this:

The Gorean world is rich in symbols.

Modern practitioners cherry-pick the ones that inspire them, leaving aside what doesn’t fit a consensual, ethical, modern life.

8. Why These Concepts Matter for Beginners

You don’t need to memorize every term or detail to start exploring Gorean ideas.

What matters is understanding the core patterns behind them:

  • Home Stone → choosing what and whom you stand for
  • Caste → knowing your strengths and your role
  • Natural Order → allowing yourself to live the polarity or pattern that feels right for you, without shame
  • Mastery & Submission → power as a shared, consensual project
  • Free Companionship → committed partnership with clear roles and purpose
  • Collar & Oath → visible symbols of deep choices

If these ideas make something inside you sit up and pay attention, you’re not alone.

That’s exactly why so many people made the jump from “interesting books” to “a path that shapes how I love and live.”

9. Where to Go Next

In later posts we’ll go deeper into each concept – especially:

  • Natural Order – different interpretations, common misunderstandings, and how to keep it healthy and consensual
  • Collars and Contracts – practical advice, examples, and pitfalls to avoid
  • Designing a Gorean-Inspired Household – from abstract ideas to daily life
  • Roles & Archetypes – Warriors, scribes, kajirae, panther girls and more

For now, if you’re curious and want to keep exploring:

You don’t need all the answers today.

This blog – and this series – is here to walk with you as you find them, at your own pace, in your own way.

I wish you well!

©2025 – Written by Azrael Phoenix

You can read the full set of episodes of this Series here:

Series 1.b – From Page to Practice: How People Moved From the Books of Gor to a Modern Lifestyle

Posted on 2025-12-09 by

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If the first article was about understanding what the Gorean lifestyle is with its Myths and Realities, this one is about how people actually got from the pages of a science-fantasy series to something they live, day by day, in the real world.

Because that jump didn’t happen overnight.

It happened quietly, inside readers.

A feeling.

A recognition.

A quiet, stubborn thought:

“This… speaks to something in me.”

Let’s talk about what that “something” is for many people – and how it turns into a consensual, ethical, modern lifestyle rather than a literal copy of the harsher parts of the books.

1. When Fiction Starts to Feel Familiar

Most of us start with Gor the same way:

a friend’s recommendation, a random file download, a heated online argument, a curious search about “Gorean slaves.”

You open a book expecting pulp fantasy… and then, somewhere between the battles, the Home Stones and the collars, you feel an uncomfortable kind of recognition.

Not necessarily in the slavery, the violence or the extremes of the world – but in:

  • the idea of clear roles between people
  • the appeal of strong, decisive leadership
  • the intensity of devoted, unreserved service
  • the attraction of structure, discipline and ritual

For some, it’s disturbing. For others, it’s strangely relieving:

“So I’m not the only one who feels like this.

I’m not broken. I’m not alone.”

That’s the seed.

From there, people begin to ask:

“If these roles and dynamics speak to me, is there a way to live something like this in real life… without harm, without coercion, without losing my humanity or violating anyone else’s?”

That question is exactly where “page” starts to become “practice.”

2. What People Actually Bring Out of the Books

Most Gorean-inspired people do not try to recreate the literal society of Gor.

They extract themes and values, and then rebuild them inside a modern, consensual framework.

Let’s look at four of the biggest ones.

Honor: Living With a Spine

Many readers are struck by the Gorean obsession with honor:

  • keeping your word
  • accepting consequences
  • not hiding behind excuses
  • standing for something clear

In practice, this turns into things like:

  • being brutally honest with yourself and your partners
  • not playing games with commitment
  • saying “no” when you mean no and “yes” when you truly mean yes
  • taking responsibility instead of blaming everyone else

For many, Gor becomes a mirror for integrity.

Discipline: Not Just “Punishment,” but Self-Mastery

Discipline in the books can be harsh. In real life, Gorean-inspired people rarely want that.

What they do want is:

  • self-control over impulses
  • the ability to follow through
  • rituals and routines that build strength and stability

Discipline becomes less about being “hit for mistakes” and more about:

  • holding yourself to a higher standard
  • accepting correction when you’ve agreed to it
  • using structure to grow, not to shrink

Service: A Dirty Word That Many Secretly Crave

“Service” makes a lot of people flinch.

We’re told that needing to serve is weak, pathetic, regressive.

And yet, many people – especially women – read scenes of deep, willing service and feel an ache of recognition:

“I want to give like that.

I want to belong deeply.

I want my care and effort to mean something.”

In a healthy, consensual Gorean-inspired dynamic, service is:

  • freely chosen, not forced
  • a form of expression, not humiliation
  • honored and cherished, not taken for granted

For some, that feels like finally letting their heart move in the direction it always wanted to go.

Structure: Roles, Rules and the Relief of Clarity

Modern life is chaotic and vague. Roles blur, expectations are unclear, everything is negotiated a thousand times.

Gorean worlds are the opposite:

Roles are sharp, hierarchy is visible, expectations are explicit.

So in practice, people borrow:

  • clear household roles
  • written agreements and rules
  • daily rituals of greeting, service, gratitude
  • visible symbols of commitment (collars, tokens, titles)

This structure isn’t there to crush anyone.

It’s there to give stability, focus, and a sense of safety.

3. The Elephant in the Room: Men, Women and “Natural Roles”

Here’s where things get controversial, so let’s walk carefully and honestly.

Many readers – not all, but many – experience Gor as a kind of coming home to a polarity they always felt but never dared to own:

  • As a man, a deep desire to lead, protect, decide, claim, and carry responsibility.
  • As a woman, a deep desire to yield, trust, surrender, and devote herself in service to a man she respects.

In modern discourse, these impulses are often:

  • dismissed as “toxic masculinity”
  • labeled “internalized misogyny”
  • or treated as childish fantasies

And yet, for a lot of people, they are very real and deeply rooted. Trying to erase them can bring more misery than liberation.

Let’s be very clear:

  • This does not mean all men are natural dominants or all women are natural submissives.
  • It does not mean women who want to lead, or men who want to submit, are “wrong.”
  • It does not reduce individuals to stereotypes.

What it does mean is:

Some people feel more fully themselves when they live in a masculine-dominant / feminine-submissive polarity.

For them, fighting that can feel like fighting their own nature.

Gor gives those people a language, imagery and framework that says:

“This can be honored. This can be beautiful.

This doesn’t make you less. This is allowed.”

When lived consciously, consensually, and ethically, this is not misogyny – it’s a chosen way of relating, between adults of equal worth who simply prefer different roles.

4. From Fictional Slavery to Consensual Power Exchange

The books portray slavery without consent.

Real life cannot.

So how do people bridge this?

They reframe the whole idea of “slavery” or “ownership” in modern, adult terms:

  • It becomes symbolic of total commitment and trust.
  • It is entered voluntarily, with the ability to walk away if safety, consent or mental health are at risk.
  • It is bound by laws, ethics and personal limits – not by force.

A Gorean-inspired couple might agree that:

  • he leads, she follows
  • he commands, she obeys
  • she serves, he protects and provides

But behind that is a more fundamental agreement:

  • both are adults
  • both have rights
  • both can renegotiate or end the dynamic
  • both are responsible for each other’s well-being

Without that foundation, it’s not a lifestyle – it’s just abuse with pretty words.

5. Consent, Law and Ethics: The Non-Negotiables

Let’s state the core safeguards plainly.

A modern Gorean-inspired life must be:

a. Consensual

  • Everyone involved agrees, freely and repeatedly
  • Limits are discussed, updated and respected
  • Safewords, signals and open conversations are normal, not “un-Gorean”

b. Legal

  • No one is actually a slave in the legal sense
  • No one’s basic rights, freedom of movement or access to help are removed
  • The dynamic never defends criminal behavior

c. Ethical

  • No manipulation: no “If you were truly Gorean, you’d let me…”
  • No isolation from friends, family or support systems
  • No using philosophy as a shield for laziness, cruelty or ego

If someone hides behind “Gor” to justify neglect, humiliation, control of basic life choices, or physical/psychological harm… that is not philosophy. That is a red flag.

6. What About People Who Don’t Fit the “Classic” Pattern?

It’s important to say this out loud:

Not everyone who is inspired by Gor fits into “dominant man, submissive woman.”

There are:

  • dominant women who resonate with the strength and clarity of Gorean leadership
  • submissive men who find comfort in surrender and structure
  • people of diverse gender identities who connect with honor, service and discipline in their own ways
  • couples who switch roles, or who only adopt partial aspects (like honor and structure) without power-exchange

The core Gorean themes – honor, responsibility, structure, service – are not limited to one configuration.

This blog centers a more traditional masculine/feminine polarity because that is where many people feel that “click” when reading Gor – but it will always:

  • recognize other paths
  • respect different identities
  • defend the equal human value of everyone involved

7. Why Some People Feel “More Alive” When They Stop Fighting This

For many who move from page to practice, there is a common story:

  • years of trying to fit into a “50/50” relationship that never felt quite right
  • years of being told their desires were wrong, regressive or shameful
  • years of ignoring a deep need to lead, or to surrender, or to serve

Then they discover Gor, or Gorean communities, and carefully, cautiously begin to structure their life around what actually feels right inside.

Often, what follows is:

  • less internal conflict, not more
  • a feeling of relief – “I don’t have to pretend anymore”
  • a sense of purpose in their role
  • deeper intimacy based on trust and transparency

Is it for everyone? No.

Can it go wrong if done carelessly or with the wrong partner? Absolutely.

But for those who walk this path with open eyes, self-knowledge and strong boundaries, embracing these roles isn’t a prison. It’s a way of finally living more fully instead of waging war against themselves.

8. From Here On: What This Blog Will Keep Doing

As we move forward in this series, I’ll keep coming back to three pillars:

  1. Taking the best of Gor’s philosophy – honor, responsibility, structure, courage, devotion.
  2. Leaving behind what cannot be imported literally – coercion, non-consensual slavery, dehumanization.
  3. Creating space for honest, adult choices – including the choice of a man to lead and a woman to submit, or any other dynamic that is freely embraced and deeply respected.

You are invited to question, to disagree, to reflect. This is not dogma; it’s an exploration.

9. Your Turn: How Did You First Find Gor?

Every Gorean-inspired person has an origin story.

  • A random ebook?
  • A heated debate in a forum?
  • A partner who introduced you?
  • A search about dominance and submission that brought you here?

👉 I’d love to hear yours.

Share in the comments:

  • How did you first discover Gor or the Gorean lifestyle?
  • What was the first thing that really resonated with you?
  • Was there a moment when you realized, “This is… familiar”?

Your story might be the one that helps someone else realize they’re not alone.

In the next article, we’ll start unpacking some of the key Gorean concepts – like Home Stone, caste and “natural order” – and see how people interpret them today without losing sight of modern ethics and consent.

©2025 – Written by Azrael Phoenix

You can read the full set of episodes of this Series here:

Series 1.a – Understanding the Gorean Lifestyle: Myths and Realities

Posted on 2025-12-07 by

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If you’ve arrived here through a random search for “Gor,” “Gorean lifestyle,” or “Gorean slave,” you’ve probably already seen a lot of dramatic claims.

Depending on which link you clicked, you may have read that:

  • Gor is “just an excuse for abuse”
  • Gor is “a misogynist fantasy that should stay in books”
  • Or, on the opposite side, that it’s some kind of “pure, superior way of life”

This blog is here to do something different.

I want to offer a clear, honest, positive but realistic look at what people call the Gorean lifestyle today – where it comes from, what it can offer, and just as importantly, what it absolutely must not become in the real world.

This first article is your “start here” guide.

1. Where It All Starts: The World of Gor

The term Gorean comes from the science-fantasy novels of John Norman, set on a fictional counter-Earth called Gor.

In the books you’ll find:

  • City-states with strong cultural identities
  • Rigid social structures, with castes and hierarchies
  • A heavy focus on honor, duty, strength, and service
  • A world where slavery, conquest, and violence are normal parts of society

The books are fiction.

They are intentionally exaggerated, provocative, and often extreme – including in how they portray power, gender, and sexuality.

Some readers, over time, felt deeply drawn not just to the adventure, but to certain ideas:

  • living by a code of honor
  • speaking and acting more directly
  • embracing clear roles and responsibilities
  • valuing strength, discipline, and devoted service

From there, people began to ask:

“Is there anything here that can inspire how I live, love, and relate to others – safely, sanely, and consensually, in the real world?”

That question is where the Gorean lifestyle appears.

2. A Crucial Line: Fiction vs Real Life

Before we go further, I need to draw a bright, non-negotiable line:

What happens in the books is not a blueprint for real-life behavior.

The novels are full of:

  • Non-consensual slavery
  • Captivity and forced submission
  • Social structures that give some people nearly total power over others

That may be compelling in fiction for some readers, but in real life:

  • Consent is mandatory.
  • All people have equal human worth.
  • Abuse, coercion, and harm are never “Gorean,” just wrong.

So when you see people in the modern world talk about being “Gorean” or living a “Gorean lifestyle,” responsible individuals and communities are not trying to recreate the most extreme or brutal aspects of the books.

Instead, they are drawing inspiration from certain values and dynamics – then rebuilding them within a framework of:

  • explicit consent
  • adult choice
  • ethical boundaries
  • modern laws and rights

This blog is based on that understanding.

3. What the Gorean Lifestyle Is Not

Let’s clear away some of the most common misconceptions.

❌ It is not an excuse for abuse

If someone uses “Gor” to justify:

  • ignoring your limits
  • belittling or isolating you
  • controlling your life without your clear, enthusiastic consent
  • making you feel unsafe, afraid, or trapped

…then the problem is not Gor. The problem is that person.

Abuse dressed in exotic language is still abuse.

❌ It is not “men are superior, women are inferior”

The books are deeply shaped by the time and culture in which they were written, and they do include ideas many readers today consider sexist or outdated.

Modern Gorean-inspired people are not a single, unified group. You will find:

  • Some who hold very traditional, binary views of gender
  • Others who emphasize roles (leader, servant, protector, supporter) as chosen dynamics, not biological destiny
  • Some who are actively critical of the more extreme parts of the novels

This blog does not promote any ideology that treats one gender, orientation, or identity as inherently lesser. We will talk about roles, power exchange, dominance and submission – but always as mutual choices between equals in human value.

❌ It is not a cult or religion

There is no official “Gorean church,” no single leader, no universal organization.

Different people and groups:

  • interpret the books differently
  • adopt different rituals, structures, or rules
  • may never agree with each other

If anyone claims they alone have the “true” Gor and everyone else is wrong, be cautious. Healthy paths leave space for questioning, growth, and personal judgment.

4. So What Is the Gorean Lifestyle at Its Best?

At its best, a Gorean-inspired lifestyle is an attempt to answer these kinds of questions:

  • How can I live more honestly? Less pretending, fewer social masks, more alignment between what I say and what I do.
  • How can I embody strength and responsibility? Not just physical strength, but emotional, moral, and practical responsibility for my choices.
  • How can we design relationships with clear roles and expectations? Instead of drifting in vague, unspoken assumptions, partners define who leads, who serves, how decisions are made, and how they support each other.
  • How can service be meaningful, not degrading? When given freely and gratefully received, service can become a way of expressing devotion, trust, and purpose.
  • How can structure and discipline actually make my life better? Routines, rules, and self-discipline can create stability in a chaotic world.

In practice, that might look like:

  • a couple who lives a consensual power-exchange relationship anchored in Gorean themes;
  • a household that uses rituals, titles, and symbols inspired by Gor;
  • individuals who never do any lifestyle roleplay at all, but use Gorean ideas about honor and responsibility as a personal philosophy.

What unites them is not costumes or precise rituals, but values:

honor, clarity, courage, service, and inner strength.

5. Different Ways People “Live Gor”

Not everyone who loves Gor lives it in the same way. You’ll meet, for example:

a. The Reader-Philosophers

They read the books, reflect, and integrate some ideas into their worldview:

  • valuing honesty
  • thinking about hierarchy, leadership, and loyalty
  • working on personal discipline

They might never use titles, collars, or explicit “Gorean” language at all.

b. The Role-Players

They prefer to keep Gor in a fictional or online context:

  • roleplaying in chatrooms, forums, or virtual worlds
  • taking on Gorean characters and stories
  • enjoying the imaginative side while keeping clear borders to real life

For them, Gor is a creative playground, not a lifestyle.

c. The Lifestyle Practitioners

These are people who consciously shape parts of their real lives around Gorean-inspired roles and values:

  • consensual dominance and submission in relationships
  • household structures with clear roles (leader/protector, servant, etc.)
  • daily rituals of respect, service, or protocol

Here, consent, negotiation, and emotional care are essential. It is a path of ongoing growth, not a fixed “template from the books.”

Many people, over time, move between these groups – or combine elements from each.

6. The Themes This Blog Will Explore

This first article is just the doorway. In the rest of the blog, we’ll dive deeper into topics like:

  • Honor & Integrity What does it mean to live by your word, and what happens when you don’t?
  • Freedom, Choice, and Voluntary Surrender How can giving up certain freedoms by choice become a form of deeper freedom?
  • Leadership & Service What makes a good leader in a Gorean-inspired dynamic? What makes a healthy, dignified expression of service?
  • Structure, Discipline & Growth How can rules, routines, and commitments be tools for self-development rather than chains?
  • Nature & Simplicity Gor often emphasizes strength, wilderness, and a simpler life closer to nature. What might that suggest for our hyper-digital, rushed world?
  • Community, Safety & Ethics How to find others, avoid red flags, and build relationships and communities that uplift rather than harm.

At every step, the focus will be:

Grounded. Consensual. Ethical. Adult.

No glamorizing harm, no guilt-tripping, no “one true way.”

7. Quick Answers to the Questions You May Already Have

“Is the Gorean lifestyle only about sex?”

No.

Sexuality and erotic power exchange can be part of some Gorean-inspired relationships, but the core themes are:

  • character
  • responsibility
  • honest roles
  • discipline and service
  • deep trust

You can engage with the philosophy and structure even if sex is not the focus.

“Do I have to submit or dominate to be ‘real’ Gorean?”

No.

This is not a game of purity points.

Some people resonate strongly with dominant roles. Others find meaning in devoted service. Others simply adopt certain values or habits.

You get to define what, if anything, you take from Gor – and where your boundaries are.

“Isn’t this inherently anti-modern or anti-equality?”

It can be interpreted that way, and some people do.

This blog is not about turning back the clock on human rights.

Instead, we’ll look at how to balance:

  • equal human worth with
  • freely chosen roles, power dynamics, and responsibilities

You’re invited to question, disagree, and form your own conclusions along the way.

8. The Tone and Intention of This Blog

Let me be very clear about the spirit in which this blog is written:

  • Demystifying, not recruiting. I’m not here to convince anyone to live a Gorean lifestyle. I’m here to explain it honestly and explore what can be learned from it – the good, the difficult, and the controversial.
  • Positive, but not blind. I believe there are valuable insights in Gorean philosophy and practice, especially around honor, responsibility, and structured relationships. I also recognize there are serious criticisms and risks when people twist these ideas.
  • Adult, consensual, and firmly against abuse. Everything here assumes informed adults making free choices. If that’s not the foundation, it’s not something I support, and it’s not something I will call “Gorean” in any meaningful way.
  • Open to dialogue. You’re welcome here whether you’re curious, skeptical, experienced, or just passing by. Respectful questions and different viewpoints enrich the conversation.

9. Where to Go Next

If this introduction has sparked your curiosity, here are good next steps within the blog:

  • “From Page to Practice: How People Moved From the Books of Gor to a Modern Lifestyle” – a closer look at how we translate fiction into real-world values.
  • “Key Gorean Concepts for Beginners: Home Stone, Caste, Natural Order & More” – a friendly glossary of core ideas and how people interpret them today.
  • “Honor, Responsibility and Discipline: The Core of Gorean Philosophy” – the heart of why many people stay with Gorean ideas long after they’ve closed the books.

Final Thought

You don’t have to agree with everything in Gor – I don’t either.

But if you feel a pull toward:

  • living more honestly,
  • standing more firmly in who you are,
  • creating deeper, more structured commitments with others,

…then you may find, as many have, that Gor is not just a controversial book series, but a mirror and a tool.

The journey from fiction to a conscious, ethical lifestyle is complex.

This blog is here to walk that road with you – step by step, question by question, always with open eyes and an open mind.

©2025 – Written by Azrael Phoenix

You can read the full set of episodes of this Series here:

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“The transition from free to slave is easy for a girl of Earth.

She quickly understands the change in her status, from free person to domestic animal.

She quickly learns to kneel and kiss the feet of her master.

She may learn it from the first stroke of a whip.

It is appropriate; she is marked and her neck is in a collar.

How quickly she begins, as a female, to revel in her submission!

How she longed for that on Earth! How cruelly it had been denied to her!

On the other hand, consider the radical, momentous transition from a robed, veiled, free woman of Gor, from the pinnacle of honor, position, status, and station in her society, to a marked, collared slave, a property to be used as her master wishes.

Yet she, too, soon enough, rejoicing, learns the slave in the female of her.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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““All men of Earth are not weaklings,” I said.

“Does not their society train them so?” she said.

“Some men are not easily trained,” I said.

“Biology, even when regretted, feared, and outlawed, exists.”

Who, I wondered, is one’s most dangerous foe, if not oneself?

Why should a man feel guilty for being a man, or a woman feel guilty for being a woman?

Why should not a man be true to himself?

Why should a woman not be true to herself?

Is a self so hard to find?

Why should it not speak?”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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““Legally,” said Hemartius, “should a woman pronounce herself to be a slave, she is then a slave, whether she has a master or not.

She is then merely a slave without a master, and may be claimed by any free person.

And, for example, should a captured free woman beg to be purchased, say, that she may be freed, she acknowledges that she can be purchased, and thus acknowledges herself a slave.

And, of course, if she is already a slave, she merely reiterates what is already obvious.””

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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“Behold, I thought, the helpless, needful slave.

She knows she is choiceless, as she would have it.

She knows she has been uncompromisingly and categorically subdued and subjugated, as she wishes.

Now she has no hope but to be pleasing to her master.

She fears only that she might not be fully pleasing.

She is tormented by her needs.

In her belly burn slave fires.

They are women with masters, the masters of which free women can only dream.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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“One of the pleasures of the typical Gorean paga tavern is the serving slaves.

It is pleasant to be served by well-collared, attractive, minimally clothed, if clothed, women who know and understand, deeply and fully, that they are slaves, that they are purchasable properties who are owned by men.

Also, knowing they are domestic animals not permitted reservations or inhibitions, as is made clear to them by their subjection to the whip and the collars locked on their necks, they are freed to be themselves, vital, natural, needful females.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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“As the story has it, Della was an outspoken, impatient, haughty, critical, lazy slave whose master, presumably because of his fondness for his property, was reluctant to impose discipline on her.

Soon Della, despite her tunic and collar, began to assume the airs of a free woman.

One night, when Della had neglected to press her lips to her master’s thigh and beg to be used, he had had enough.

She was, after all, a slave, and not a free woman. He braceleted her hands behind her back and conducted her to the opening of the Beast Caves.

“Why have you brought me here?” asked Della. “What are you going to do?” “You have not been fully pleasing,” said her master. “I am going to feed you to the beasts.”

At that point, two of the beasts, growling, their eyes like flaming copper in the light of the moons, emerged from the cave.

Della, terrified, instantly threw herself to her knees before her master, begging his mercy and forgiveness, pleading for her life.

He said nothing, but turned about and returned to the city, Della hurrying behind him, heeling him.

After that, it is said that Della became an obedient, dutiful, and loving slave.

She became happy, having learned who was master and who was slave, and that each should be what they are, fully and perfectly.””

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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““Look up, well-shaped kajira,” I said.

Sometimes one so addresses slaves, say, as “nicely ankled kajira,” “sweet-hipped kajira,” “pleasantly flanked kajira,” “glossy-pelted kajira,” and such.

It reminds them that they are so looked upon, as openly assessable, vendible objects.

The female slave is to be kept fully conscious of her external, physical aspects. Is she not a property?

She is never to be in doubt that she has a body. She is, after all, a slave.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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““I love being subject to the whip,” she said. “I respond to my domination. I love being dominated, wholly, helplessly.”

“Do you fear the whip?” I asked.

“Very much,” she said, “and I hope, very much, that it will not be used on me.”

“But if you are not pleasing?”

“Then, of course,” she said, “it will be used on me.”

“And do you like that?”

“Not at all,” she said. “It hurts.”

“So you will try to be pleasing,” I said.

“Yes, Master,” she said, “very much so, Master.”

“Proceed,” I said. “Bring me food and drink.”

“Yes, Master,” she said.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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““Do you like being a property?” I asked.

“Yes, Master,” she said, paused, not looking back.

“I dreamed of such things on another world. I wanted to belong to a truly fine, strong man, who would understand me as, and treat me as, the slave I am, and want to be.

I am thrilled to be owned and collared. I want to kneel before a man, and please him, knowing that I am his and he may do with me as he wishes.

I relish my helplessness and vulnerability. I want to be commanded. I want no choice but to obey.

I am a slave. It is what I am. I am happy. I am fulfilled. I would not want it any other way.””

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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“Slaves, as submissives, are powerfully, even tormentedly, sexually aroused by being subjected to casual, categorical, unqualified dominance.

They have sexual experiences of which the free woman can only dream.

Iris, like Zia, and many others, had been brought from Earth to the markets of Gor. On Gor, in their collars, at the feet of men, they had found themselves.

In their collars, on Gor, they had undergone a liberation into truth and selfhood, into the joy of becoming what they had always hoped to be and feared they might never become, the rightless belonging of a master.

On Earth many women are starved of sex; they are alone and unfulfilled; they languish in a sexual desert, yearning for masters they never meet.

On Earth, often, they are not permitted their longed-for submissiveness; seldom are they taught, as they wish to be, their femaleness and meaning; on Gor, they are given no choice but to recognize it.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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“Once a woman has knelt before a man, what more can she be then, but a slave?

What free woman would have anything to do with a woman who was once a slave? They do not consort with slaves. They despise and command them.

And the slave, interestingly, having been a slave, and having learned her womanhood, rejoices in service and submission.

Many slaves would be terribly uneasy without their collars.

They want to be in them, and know they belong in them.

Their collars are precious to them.

Their collars mean more to them than freedom and gold.

They are slaves, and want to be slaves.

And do not many women, even free women, long for their collars?”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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““Look upon the slaves, pretty Iris,” said Seremides, “see how beautiful slaves can be.”

“I may not be so beautiful as they, Master,” said Iris, “but I assure you that I am as much a slave as they, and perhaps even more so.”

I smiled to myself, pitying the women of my former world, so denied their sex.

How they starved in a sexual desert.

Few, it seemed, could wear their collars and be handled by masters as the slaves they were save in their dreams.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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““That is a lovely slave,” said Aetius, eying Iris with the frankness of a Gorean male looking on a female slave.

The slave, of course, is an animal and is to be looked on as such. One of the things to which an Earth girl brought to Gor as a slave must accustom herself is being looked upon as no more than what she then is, a pure, raw, collared beast.

This tears away hundreds of cultural lies, confusions, and accretions.

She then becomes aware, commonly for the first time, of her radical, indisputable femaleness.

Men will pay for her, to own her, to have her subject to their whip.

And, needless to say, this understanding, enflaming her passions, bringing her into animal heat, liberates her sexually, that bringing her all the more under the control of the male.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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“It is a pleasant thing, I thought, for a man to have such a property, to own it, absolutely, completely, such a well-curved, delicious beast.

What true man does not desire a slave?

What true woman does not desire a master?”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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“The female slave is the most feminine of all women.

The collar brings out the softness, and submissiveness, the marvelous femininity, the underlying, precious, fundamental nature of its owned, helpless, vulnerable occupant.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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““Tharna,” I said, “was once a typical Gorean city, but, over time, free women, seeking power by various means, the indoctrination of the young, the application of rhetorics, the shaping of values, the utilization of convenient devices such as humiliation, guilt, and shame, induced many men to disarm and deny themselves, to fear and reject masculinity, to divest themselves of manhood, to foreswear and repudiate their blood and very nature.

Tharna became a gynocracy. But men, like urts and verr, like tarns and larls, have a nature. They are not malleable clods of formless clay which may be shaped into any eccentric form preferred by those who hold the reins of the state, by the unseen engineers of society.

Eventually, men, sickened by self-denial, unwilling to tolerate an outlawed manhood, deciding to discover themselves, deciding to grow and flourish without trammel, revolted. The gynocracy, gradually and subtly wrought, inch by inch, over generations, was suddenly and violently overthrown.”

“Today,” said Seremides, “there is only one free woman in Tharna, Lara, her Tatrix.””

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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“Gorean men, and, accordingly, Gorean markets, tend to favor the natural woman.

Some women, interestingly enough, discover only on the sales block that they are enormously desirable and truly beautiful.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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“She was in a standard examination position, standing, her legs widely spread, her hands clasped together behind the back of her neck, her head up and back, seeing the sky.

The spread-legged position makes it difficult for a girl to change her position and induces a sense of vulnerability.

The position of the hands behind the back of the neck or head immobilizes the hands and lifts the breasts nicely.

Her head up and back, facing upward, prevents her from anticipating where she might be touched or caressed.”

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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Oh, my Master

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Oh, my Adored Master, I beg forgiveness for my fails, but please be aware that my body trembles under the weight of despair! My very soul yearns to be cleansed and graced by Your touch, but my essence is weakened, and my spirit languishes in the depths of sickness, anxiety, jealousy and this feeling of not being good enough for You.

Oh, how I long, I ache, with every fiber of my being to bring You the pleasure You so rightly deserve. I kneel humbly at Your omnipotent feet, is the utmost desire that burns within my core. Yet, this wretched affliction shackles me, preventing me from fully embodying the kajira You have molded with such care and dedication.

But fear not, Almighty Master, for I vow, with every ounce of my waning strength, to rise above this wretched predicament! Like a phoenix from the abyss, I shall emerge, reborn, with a fervor that lives in my spirit, soul an essence. My natural state, as Your slave and devoted kajira.

 I implore You and the universe itself to restore me to the pinnacle of mental health, so that I may offer myself wholly and unconditionally to nurture Your transcendental desires.  I yearn for the day when I can once again be desired and valued by You, devoting myself entirely to serving You, my Divine Master.

I pray, I beg You, with every heartbeat, that You, my Supreme Master, can perceive the depths of my devotion, even in this decrepit state! My  devotion remains resilient, unwavering, and undying. I am but a vessel, eagerly awaiting the zealous touch of Your sanctified hands, and I implore You to believe in my unwavering commitment to serve You, body, mind, soul and spirit.

For it is through Your divine existence that my existence gains meaning and purpose. Your pleasure, Your whims, Your every fleeting desire, they consume my every thought, my every aspiration. I yearn to be the epitome of Your desires, a willing conduit for Your unparalleled satisfaction.

Beloved Master, I beseech You, hear my ardent plea! Grant me the patience to endure this agonizing trial, for I promise, with every fiber of my being, that I shall overcome this affliction. My spirit shall persevere, my devotion for You shall never waver, and I shall become the embodiment of the kajira You, my Magnificent Master, so valiantly deserve.

With unwavering loyalty and fervent love and devotion, I kneel and prostrate myself before You. I beg You, my Master to help Your kajira, this humble and bruised slave, to nurture my wounded self, with the unwavering belief that our profound connection will guide me back to Your heavenly embrace and You may feel how I completely belong to You… and worthy of Your collar.

Forever Yours, Your unworthy yet devoted kajira,

cythe

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““Does it trouble you to be kneeling as you now are?” I asked.

“No, Master,” she said. “I am now before a free person.”

“You are not resentful, ashamed, humiliated?”

“No, Master,” she said, “I am now as is right for me. I am now where, and as, I belong. I would be uneasy, even fearful, not to be before you as I am now. I want to be as I am now before you, rightfully submitted, thankful, grateful. It is fitting. I am a slave. I want to be a slave. I love being a slave. It will be hard for Master to understand this, but I have never felt more free, more fulfilled, more me, more happy than I do in a locked collar, owned.”

“It is spoken of,” I said, “as the paradox of the collar.””

© John Norman – Gorean Saga – Book 37 “Warriors of Gor”

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Cythe belongs to You, Master Phoenix

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Oh, my Master! How the fire of my devotion and the torrents of my gratitude for being completely and utterly Yours consume me! How they overflow from the depths of my soul, threatening to burst forth like a mighty volcano!

 

I tremble with anticipation, for the mere thought of serving You truly sets my heart ablaze. This morning, as the sunrise cast its golden hues upon our entangled bodies, You, my omnipotent Master, claimed me with all the vigor of a thunderclap, wielding Your strength and power. In the sanctity of Your embrace, my very essence surrendered to Your dominance, for it is only in surrender that my purpose finds its truest form.

 

With every beat of my heart, it pulsates the undeniable truth: I am forever and irrevocably Yours. My existence is tied to Your whims, oh Master, and that connection reverberates throughout every inch of my being. Physically, my body belongs to You, longing for each touch that ignites an inferno upon my flesh. Emotionally, my heart beats in sync with Yours, a symphony of passion and desire. Mentally, my thoughts are consumed by You, endlessly roaming the depths of Your will. And in the essence of my soul, Your ownership has imprinted indelibly, forever branding my very identity.

 

For You have awakened within me a fervent love, a devotion that transcends the realm of the ordinary. Your power overflows, a tempest that rages within my core, guiding me along the path of subservience and fulfillment. How beautifully and completely I surrender to Your mastery, basking in the splendor of Your dominance! In Your hands, I find solace, purpose, and an intoxicating euphoria that sets my spirit afire.

 

Oh, my Master, I am forever Yours! With every moment, every breath, and every fiber of my being, I shall serve You and honor the privilege of being Your kajira, Your servant. Within the depths of my soul, I embrace the profound and unbreakable bond we share. Thank you, my Master, for bestowing upon me the gift of Your ownership and igniting within me an eternal flame of devotion.

Chronicles of a Gorean Master II – How did I become Gorean

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If I had to list the question that I’m asked more frequently in the Gorean realm , that would most likely be “How did you become a Gorean”?

Although it seems a quite simple question, I truly struggled to find an appropriate answer, until I finally realized I hadn’t “become” a Gorean, but rather been “discovered/recognized” as such.

In order to better understand this, let me first start by sharing my background and upbringing.

I was raised in an “extremelly conservative” (I try to avoid the word fanatic whenever possible) familly and a very reclusive community environment. Just to give you a glimpse, the “dogmas” included believing that oral and anal sex or even touching oneself with “impure thoughts” (I’m not even talking about actual masturbation) were mortal sins, so I reached the early years of adolescence (and natural raging hormones) primed for inner conflict, emotional turmoil and utmost disaster.

Effectively, the already turbulent process of being a teenager proved to be an emotional rollercoaster of epic proportions. Most time was spent oscilating between a fervorous and devout commitment and effort to conform to the social rules and expectations imposed by the community and the “crash and burn” effect of “sucumbing” to one’s nature, only to be overwhelmed with regret and condemning thoughts and end up “doubling down” on the efforts to conform to the “righteous” way of life (a typical vicious cycle).

In my early 20’s I ended up marrying within the community, somehow believing that would fix all the problems and “settle down” my instincts and thoughts but as you most surely have already guessed, it didn’t!

To worsen things, we’re talking about a community where divorce is not possible and where leaving or being “disfellowshipped” means that you are outcast and even direct familly (parents, children, etc) can no loger have absolutely any type of contact with you, making you an absolute outcast.

With a newborn son and in a marriage that could only be broken by the death of one of the spouses, there seemed to be absolutely no viable solution, until I reached the limits of my ability to fight my nature, decided to listen to my inner instincts and gradually started cutting ties and discovering my true nature (that whole process is a very long story and I’ll leave it for it’s own chronicle).

This process of discovery was a very bumpy road, as I never truly feelt I belonged anywhere or was fully realized with any practice, but always felt incomplete as if something was missing, and loosing all contact with the entire family and everyone I had ever considered a friend didn’t help.

There was a long tortuous path bouncing from “Vanilla” lifestyle to BDSM practices and lifestyle, with several different flavours of power exchange types of relationship until someone told be “you are a Gorean Master”…

I had never heard of Gor, had no idea of what a kajira or a homestone were (or any other component of the Gorean saga), so I didn’t actually pay much attention to the comment, but my “sub” kept insisting that the quotes she was reading from the “Books of Gor” were very similar to the way I thought about things, that I decided to do some investigation on the topic.

After reading several of the quotes (that in fact peaked my interest on the subject) and doing some investigation on the available forums about the topic, I decided to follow the advice of several people and started reading the books of the Gorean Saga in the order they were published.

The more I read, the more I identified with the Philosophy and the Lifestyle, becoming more and more envolved in the story, in the process of self-discovery that the main character, “Carl Tabot” went through. I can truly say that in several cases, I saw for the first time in words what had always been feelings that I found no way of describing.

As a result of that process, we started identifying ourselves as Goreans, practicing the “Gorean Lifestyle” and striving to studying the books and the Philosophy in order to support us in our own self-discovery process, so that we could more easily find the path of self-fulfillment by living in accordance with the Natural Order.

Of course, considering the society we live in and all the limitations imposed by it, this process of intensifying our commitment to living in accordance with the Natural Order was not without troubles and stumbling, but I’ll write about that in more detail in one of my next posts.

I wish you well,

©2023 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

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