Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

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©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Here goes another quote from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Decided to start sharing some quotes from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle.

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Decided to start sharing some quotes from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle

Enjoy, follow the blog and subscribe for updates!

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Decided to start sharing some quotes from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle

Daily Gorean Quotes

Tal everyone,

Decided to start sharing some quotes from the books themselves, considering they are without any doubt the best way to get to know the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle

©2020 -Written by Azrael Phoenix

Where are Goreans and how do they live their life?

Tal everyone,

I’m trying to build this blog in an organized and structured way in order to help everyone who wants to learn more about Gorean Lifestyle and Philosophy by providing focused information regarding the topics most often questioned.

Nevertheless, I decided to open this new area, just to share some random thoughts and ideas whenever they pop to my mind, with no particular order or agenda, just to share them and get your feedback!

One of my latest thoughts is to start gathering informations about all the different Gorean communities/groups that exist around the world and how they live.

Being a Philosophy on which a Lifestyle is based and not a strict set of rules, Gorean Lifestyle inherently comes in a variety of “flavours” considering each group applies the Gorean Principles in the way they see it’s more appropriate to their reality.

I’ve met groups of people that live the Philosophy in a more literal way, following most of the principles quite literally and including many of the “customs” in their daily life, while others use the Gorean Principles to guide their life, but do not actively implement most of the “by the book” practices, like using all the specific positions, ways to act, etc…

Of course there are immense variables at stake and that makes each situation unique. Some live alone while others have already families and kids living with them that restrict the way they act. Some live in a setting that allows the kajira to focus exclusively on her chores and serving her Master while others live in situations that while being Master and kajira, both have to work in order to provide the families needs, some kajirae have a professional life that implies they have to command men at work, etc. etc.

While personally I have my own approach on the Lifestyle, I would love to get to know how you tackle the challenge of living the Gorean way in a society that so clearly contradicts our Natural Order!

So I thank you in advance for your comments and contributions (either here on the post or directly to me) that will surely enrich future posts and help us all to learn from each other!

I wish you well and may your water bags be never empty!

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What it is to be Gorean – Part 8 (Sadism)

Tal everyone,

In case you arrived directly to this post, I strongly suggest you read the previous ones in this series:

Cumulatively with reading the previous posts of this series, I highly recommend you also read the post regarding GOR vs BDSM and the following articles regarding the Gorean Philosophy:

It is quite common to see a lot of talk regarding GOR and BDSM. Considering that in both worlds there is dominance and submission and there might be some overlaps in some specifics, it is understandable that in many cases some confusion may arise.

This post in particular is focused on the “sadism” perspective and its “compatibility” with the Gorean Lifestyle and Philosophy.

Let me start by saying that despite some more radical approaches, in general Goreans do not “demonize” sadism, some Goreans might even enjoy some “practices” that BDSMrs also enjoy (some light whipping, some bondage, etc), so it’s important to start by defining the concepts and work from there.

The word “sadism” has evolved considerably in meaning from the late 1960s. Clinically, at the time, it referred to a malevolent enjoyment in causing suffering in others and an inability to achieve sexual satisfaction without it. That is, it was a form of “wanton cruelty” and rather intrinsically non-consensual.

In modern parlance, however, in the BDSM community, sadism became a much softer word involving consensual extreme nervous system manipulation (eg, via pain), which is ultimately pleasurable for both parties.

Even the Diagnostics and Statistical Manual (DSM) in its current version no longer defines it as a disorder (unless it causes the patient problems in daily life, which is true of almost anything in the DSM). That is, what the BDSM community means when it says “sadist” and what a 1960s psychiatrist (or book series) meant are extremely different.

Rather, the focus should be on “wanton cruelty”. The books argue, rather, that a desire to abuse those weaker than yourself is a sign of a sick mind, one born of a social structure that seeks to demean and tear down its members.

When one feels powerless, a sadly common response is to assert power through violence against those who cannot defend themselves. Thus a society that tears down its members will see its members try to tear down others in turn.

In a society that seeks to build up its members, there will be little need to compensate for a feeling of powerlessness through abuse.

Goreans view the infliction of pain as a punishment and kajirae dread to be put to the whip not because of the pain itself, but because it means they have been found displeasing to their Masters.

We should keep in mind the following quote:

“Perhaps it should only be added that the Gorean Master, though strict, is seldom cruel. The girl knows, if she pleases him, her lot will be an easy one. She will almost never encountered sadism or wanton cruelty, for the psychological environment that tends to breed these diseases is largely absent from Gor. This does not mean that she will not expect to be beaten if she disobeys, or fails to please her Master.”

Outlaw of Gor, Page 53

The fact is that as I already mentioned before, we don’t live in a black and white world and there is a myriad of variables and possibilities that must be taken into account in each situation (that’s why the Philosophy is guided by Principles and not by Rules).

So, taking aside all the “unhealthy” pathologically sick minds that go to extremes, we still have many people that enjoy pleasure inflicting some sort of pain in ways that both individuals (the one that inflicts the pain and the one that receives the pain) enjoy the moment it it’s own way and take pleasure from it.

Let’s take a “personal” example to try to explain this point! Although I seldom do it (now that I think of it, haven’t done it for a very very long time), I have to admit that in the right context I consider interesting to “play” with candles. Playing with candles implies that we cause some degree of pain (regardless of how light) to the other person in whose skin the wax drops, but with the appropriate care so that the “pain” does not become unpleasant and with the right environment and sensory stimulation, it can become quite erotic, exciting and pleasant.

Therefore, liking some light types of sensory stimulation, for example in the form of pleasurable “pain”, a game involving the delicate stimulation of senses in order to magnify the erotism in a particular moment (as long as it is something occasional as we’ll discuss later), that gives pleasure to both people, does not define someone as being “sadistic” if, as stated, it is an accessory, an “exception” and not the rule itself.

But when someone defines itself as being “sadistic”, then that obviously is a key point in who they are, and that deviates them from the Gorean Philosophy.

Let’s take look at another example.

A Gorean Master whips his kajira for 2 reasons:

  • Mainly to punish her because she has been displeasing;
  • Occasionally without any particular reason, just to reassure her of her place at His feet.

In both situations, the whipping is something the kajira dreads because it implies discipline, even if by being reassured of her place she ends up feeling better, more at peace with herself as is very well explained in the following quote:

Surely the instruction of the switch’s swift, stinging admonitions would be more than sufficient for her control, management, and improvement. Assiduously would she attend to its lessons and strive to correct her behaviour, that she might become more pleasing to her master. In short, the slave, as most slaves, had very ambivalent feelings toward the whip, that unmistakable symbol of the mastery, that he was master and they were slave. They loved and revered it as a symbol of their treasured bondage, of the preciousness of their collars, put on them, and kept on them, by masters, but would do much to evade its stroke. Yet, too, oddly, through their whimpering and tears, they might sometimes rejoice as it might be applied to them, as it left in them no doubt that they were truly in their collars, truly the slaves of their master. Their status, their condition, their reality was then well confirmed upon them. So Cecily feared the whip, but was pleased that she was subject to it, and that it would be used upon her if she were not pleasing. She now well understood, given the events of the afternoon, that she, though an Earth girl, was the abject slave of a Gorean master. The slave fears the whip, but is thrilled to be subject to it. She sees the simple device, always present in her milieu, suspended on its peg. She sees it with apprehension, and yet, too, with reassurance and ecstasy. She is profoundly reassured of her specialness, her worth, her importance, her identity, slave, her desirability, her womanhood.

Book 28 – Kur of Gor

Another good description of the attitude of respect a kajira must have regarding her collar and the discipline is the following:

“Surely you fear the whip,” I said, “and the hazards of the collar?”
“The whip is good for us,” she said. “Perhaps it is hard for you to understand that, as you are not a woman. It makes our womanhood a hundred times more meaningful. The essential point here is not being whipped, of course, which hurts, but being subject to the whip, and being truly subject to it. You see the distinction, I am sure. We know that men are by nature sovereign over us. That comprehension requires no great insight. Accordingly, men must then either fulfil their nature, or deny it, and in denying their nature, deny us ours, for ours is the complement to theirs. Accordingly we despise men who surrender their natural sovereignty. Surely we would not be so stupid, would not be such weaklings and fools as to do that, if we were men. It would be too valuable and glorious a thing to give up. Its surrender would be a tragedy. But we are not men! We are women, and want, truly, with everything in our hearts and bellies, to be women, and we cannot be women truly if men are not truly men! Accordingly, I would not want a man who could not whip me. I would not have the least respect for a man who was too weak to use it on me. Lay down the whip, and we will attack you, and undermine you, and use your own laws, institutions and rhetorics to destroy you, inch by inch. Lift it, and we will lick your feet in gratitude. Own us, dominate us! Enslave us, properly, so that we may love you as women are meant to love, wholly and irreservedly, totally, without a thought for ourselves!” She looked at me, tears in her eyes. “Is it so wrong to want to be ourselves?”

Book 23 – Renegades of Gor

Additionally, when a Master exerts his Dominance over the kajira, that is usually sexually arousing, causes a testosterone and adrenaline rush in him. Therefore, when providing the aftercare after the discipline is applied and caressing his property, the Master might feel the impulse to ravishingly sexually possess her, taking them both to exhilarating pleasures!

There would be no problem with that, of course! But what if, after some of these events, the kajira’s subconscious establishes a correlation between the whipping and the ravishing sexual marathon that usually follows? What if, in her subconscious, she stops looking at the whip as a tool for discipline, but as a key for what usually happens after the whipping? She might even begin to “inadvertently” misbehave in order to trigger the event.

If this happens, then clearly the “exception” is becoming a rule, meaning the Master/kajira are in the boundaries of crossing from being Goreans that occasionally enjoy sexual activities with a “sadistic” flavour (to whom the whip is still for discipline and the kajira does not look to the pain as being inherently a source of pleasure) into being more defined by their sadistic pursue of pleasure. If effectively following the Gorean Philosophy, the Master will in this case have to be careful to “break” that causal correlation between the discipline and the pleasure (by being conscious not to end up “rewarding” his kajira the next times he has to discipline her, etc, etc.)

I repeat again, I see no problem with those who take pleasure from “healthy sadism”, but as described in the previous paragraphs, if that takes a predominant role in your life or if that conflicts with the Gorean Principles (like the one that the Gorean Master, by principle, only inflicts pain upon his kajira as a means for discipline), then you will not be following the Gorean Lifestyle and Philosophy, but your own path.

There is more than enough place on Earth for anyone to be a Gorean, a “healthy” Sadistic, or even to be juggling between the two worlds until they figure out where they fit best, but if you effectively want to live in accordance with the Gorean Philosophy, it’s important to know what is involved, so read the books, study the Lifestyle and Philosophy and enjoy the ride in discovering the fulfilment that arises from living in accordance to our Natural Order!

In order to continuously improve these articles, help me address the topics that are important to you and be of use to all those that are interested in learning more about the Gorean Lifestyle and Philosophy, as always, feel free to share, comment and send me your feedback.

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What it is to be Gorean – Part 7 (“Communal” Slavery)

Tal everyone,

In case you arrived directly to this post, I strongly suggest you read the previous ones in this series:

In this series of articles I’ve been focusing on the key points that allow us to understand what it really means to follow the Gorean Lifestyle and Philosophy, often drawing some lines between Goreans and other Philosophies/cultures. Keep in mind that this does not mean in any way that the former are better than the latter, just that we are all different and it is crucial to keep that in mind. There is no problem if GOR is not for you, it’s just better to understand that and look for what fits you best than trying to “twist” both you and the philosophy, resulting in a never-satisfying hybrid adaptation both of the Philosophy and your nature.

With this in mind, it’s important to analyse another aspect of the Gorean Philosophy that often is not correctly understood and results in a lot of controversy. For Goreans, the slavery of a kajira is inherently communal.

This means that if a female is a kajira, she is always that (remember Gorean Lifestyle and Philosophy are lived 24/7), and not only occasionally. On top of that, she owes respect and obedience to all Masters, and not exclusively to her owner. In Gorean Lifestyle we cannot find a slave being submissive to her Master in one minute, but in the following minute talking arrogantly to another Master (a.k.a. “bitch-slapping”) just because “he doesn’t own her”.

This Principle is well explained in the following quote:

“The discipline of a slave may be attended to by any Free Person, otherwise she might do much what she wished, provided only her Master did not learn of it. The legal principle is clear, and has been upheld in several courts, in several cities, including Ar.”

Magician of Gor, Page 122

Or for example this additional quote:

“You cannot punish me!” she cried. “You are not my Masters!”

“Any Free Person can punish an errant slave girl,” I said.

“Surely you do not think that her behaviour fails to be subject to supervision and correction as soon as she is out of her Master’s sight?”

Magician of Gor, Page 225

So, the “Principle” in Gorean Philosophy is clear and a kajira is subject to the authority and discipline of any Master and this is also a way to ensure that she does not have dual behaviours depending on her Master being present or not.

But we must draw a clear line in the difference between the communal enforcement of obedience on one hand and on the other hand being communal property, subject to the wills and desires of any Master, which in fact are two very different things.

Just because any Master (or even in some cases other slaves) has the possibility (and responsibility) to enforce the obedience of the kajira to the rules that are upon her, this does not mean that any Master can use any slave girl as he well pleases. Take this quote as an example:

“What have we here!” cried a man cheerfully. “Slaves!” cried others.

“Hold,” said I. “We are honest men, and are not thieves. Release them.”

The man loosed the hair of the girls. Swiftly they knelt, frightened.

“These girls,” said I, “belong to Imnak.”

“He is a red hunter,” said a man.

“He is one with us,” I said.

There was an angry cry.

I drew my blade. “None may use them without his permission” I said. “I shall maintain discipline, if need be, my comrades, by the blade.”

Beasts of Gor, Page 387

So, considering this apparent dichotomy, where do we stand? Can any Master command any slave or not?

The answer is twofold, both yes and no. Yes, a kajira owes obedience to any Master, but a Master can only command a kajira that he does not own within the boundaries of what is explicitly or implicitly permitted by her Master.

Explicit permission might be frequent in close communities where Masters know each other well and it is clear how each Master allows other Masters to treat/use his property with very detailed notions of what is appropriate or not in different situations.

Implicit permission is more “broad”, meaning it is applied only in the generic aspects of behaviour a kajira must demonstrate in the presence of a Master. If a kajira misbehaves and unless there are explicit instructions from her Master on how she must be dealt, other Masters might scold her, but do not take direct disciplinary action, making sure that her Master is informed and can take direct action.

There is a common convention within Gorean Communities on Earth that the commands that are given to kajirae by other Masters are restricted to “common chores” like serving them in gatherings, showing respect, etc., etc.. Anything that goes beyond that (particularly if it has any kind of sexual connotation) must be explicitly allowed by her Master.

We must also keep in mind that although a kajira owes obedience and respect to all Masters, her primary and irrevocable submission is to “her Master”. Therefore, if any command is given that contradicts has Master’s will, she must politely and respectfully inform that she cannot perform that action because her Master does not allow it. If the other Master is truly Gorean he will not try to force her, but most surely will inform her Master of the event to confirm if she was being deceitful (and no mercy will be shown to the slave being caught in wrongful use of her Master’s name).

If, by any chance, another “Master” insists in wanting the kajira to violate her Master’s will (showing that he does not effectively follow the Gorean Philosophy), then that clearly is a conflict and the kajira must actively refuse to obey, protecting her Master’s property and following his will!

The “rule of thumb” therefore is:

  • The kajira is the property of her Master and only His will is sovereign over her;
  • The kajira must strive to be respectful and obedient to all other Masters;
  • All Masters have power to command a kajira within the boundaries of what is acceptable in the community and what is explicitly allowed by her Master;
  • If any conflict arises, the kajira must kindly and respectfully inform that the command violates the will of her Master and that therefore, according to her Master’s will, she cannot obey it;
  • If the conflict persists, the kajira must actively take all necessary measures to escape the actions that are being forced upon her against has Master’s will.

On a very personal note, I usually say to my First Girl that if a male (in these situations I do not call them Masters because by their actions they fail to respect the Honor that is paramount to any true Gorean Master) insists in not respecting my will, then he looses the right to be respected but nonetheless she must strive to decline politely and never be disrespectful (because her actions are always reflected on her Master’s Honor). If by any event any male is crazy enough to try to get physical on her violating my will, she is authorised to use all means necessary (I’ve taught her Krav Maga and she is very good at it, which makes this quite simple) to protect herself and enforce my will!

Gladly this never happened and I want to think it never will, so she gladly always acts like the good kajira she is, respectfully treating all men as the Masters they inherently are (unless proven otherwise by their actions).

In order to continuously improve these articles, help me address the topics that are important to you and be of use to all those that are interested in learning more about the Gorean Lifestyle and Philosophy, as always, feel free to share, comment and send me your feedback.

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What it is to be Gorean – Part 6 (Consensual Slavery)

Tal everyone,

In case you arrived directly to this post, I strongly suggest you read the previous ones in this series:

One of the topics I am approached with often is the fact that in Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle, the kajirae devote themselves in a total, absolute and uncompromising way to their Masters.

Differently from what is usual in other “cultures” where there is a lot of negotiation, hard and soft limits, contracts, etc., in the Gorean Lifestyle the kajira submits entirely to her Master. As was already explained in the previous posts, this is done in a gradual way, where the trust is built one experience at a time.

With this in mind, I intend to state clearly that although absolute, slavery must always be consensual!

Consensual slavery should also be understood as distinct from imagery often associated with the BDSM community. While there is considerable overlap between those who practice sexual bondage, sadomasochistic activities, and consensual long-term power-exchange relationships (whether Master/kajira or Dominant/submissive), one does not in any way imply another. There are many people, in the Gorean community and otherwise, that practice consensual lifestyle Master/slave relationships but do not engage in any sexual bondage or sadomasochistic play (I’ll get into the “sadism” topic in a future post).

The key attribute of “lifestyle M/k” that differentiates it from “modern slavery” is the continued active consent of all involved parties. Claims that a person cannot consent to a relationship in which they are the submissive or servile partner without it being abuse are, quite simply, ignorant bigotry.

So, in order to try to summarise what defines the consensual slavery in Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle, here are some points:

  • Gorean Lifestyle slavery cannot be forced upon anyone.
    • Yes, this is the first point that must be made clear. It depends entirely on the kajira to devote herself to her Master. That is quite different from what happens in the books, but we live on Earth and this is a blog about life according the “Gorean Lifestyle” and its principles. On Earth, females cannot be abducted, enslaved against their will and be “taught by the whip” to embrace and welcome their slavery and anyone who tries to do that has nothing to do with the Gorean Philosophy (but surely suffers from serious issues);
    • We live integrated in a society and this is one of the “hard-rules” that cannot be crossed. Goreans say that “a kajira has no will” and in fact that is one of the main points in the absolute surrender to the power of the Master, but she must enter such an absolute commitment by her own choice!
  • Gorean Lifestyle slavery is 24/7
    • Gorean Lifestyle is quite different from “role-playing” games or from most BDSM cultures where those that follow it devote certain periods of time (“sessions”) to it and then return to their “daily life” in the remaining time;
    • Therefore, the “role” you have in the Gorean Lifestyle is part of who you are, and not something according to which you occasionally “act”. The kajira therefore must endeavour to act like the kajira she is in all situations (I’ll get into more detail regarding this point in a future post about the communal perspective of Gorean Lifestyle slavery);
  • Gorean Lifestyle slavery is not on a sliding scale
    • In the BDSM community it is common to have a wide range of relationship dynamics that use the terms “Dom and sub” or “Master and slave” (or many other variations like Daddy/girl, Owner/pet, etc.), and there is a wide range of interpretations of the meaning of each of those and the degree of control involved in the relationship. It is so fluid that in practice the terms are often utterly meaningless as a form of communication because they might have very different and often interchangeable meanings/interpretations.
    • Gorean slavery is considerably more uniform (although not entirely by any means), and is an inherently total relationship. If a part of the slave’s life is unregulated by her master (as is frequently the case), it is only because he has not chosen to regulate it, not because he would not have the right to do so should he desire it.

As I pointed out in the previous post Master’s care, it is the responsibility of the Master to always look after the well being of His property, and his utmost responsibility to ensure he never gives her any command that in fact is contrary to her well being or take any action that might cause her irreparable damage (either physical or psychological). On the other hand, it is the kajira’s role to entirely submit to her Master’s command and will, trusting Him to always look after her well being.

Being founded on TRUST and backed by the Master’s HONOR, the true 24/7 Master/kajira relationship is built and strengthened over time, needing no contracts, rules or limits to be defined.

If, at any moment, the Master stops following the Gorean Philosophy and his desires go against the kajira’s well being, then that means he stoped acting as a Gorean Master and (as we live on Earth under Earth Society’s laws and rules), the kajira can follow her own separate path on a quest to find a true Gorean Master at whose feet she can truly, fully and consensually submit her life.

List of posts in this series:

To all those that enjoy reading long texts, I highly recommend the article written by Marcus of Ar regarding Being Goreans on Earth that you can find here.

I wish you well!

©2020 – Written by Azrael Phoenix

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What it is to be Gorean – Part 5 (Master’s care)

Tal everyone,

In case you arrived directly to this post, I strongly suggest you read the previous ones in this series:

There is a saying that ‘behind every great man, there is a great woman’. Let me take the freedom of adapting this to Gorean terms by saying that behind every kajira there is a Gorean Master.

I say this because a Master that truly follows the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle must have several traits that make him different from the regular Master/Dominant.

I frequently come across comments that it is not possible to live according to Gorean Principles like the fact that a kajira commits to her Master without reservations and that in Gorean Lifestyle there is no such thing as negotiations, contracts and agreements regarding soft and hard limits.

I say that it is quite possible to live according to those principles if all the persons involved (and in particular the Master) truly follow the Gorean Philosophy.

There are some topics I’ll address in more detail in future posts, but regarding the Gorean Master I must highlight the following mandatory traits:

  • Honor
  • Care for His property

You can read more about Honor in the post Introduction to Honor.

Yes, although the Masters will is absolute, it is tempered with care and consideration for his property.

In Gorean Lifestyle, no Master will cause irreparable damage to his property or inflict upon the kajira unnecessary or gratuitous suffering for his own amusement (I won’t get into the “sadism” topic for now because that will be addressed in a future post).

Let’s say that the relationship between a Gorean Master and a kajira is a two-way street. The kajira must fully devote herself to the Master without limits or restrictions, and the Master must focus not exclusively on his own needs and desires, but on caring for his property, on making sure she has all the conditions to serve him pleasingly, but much more than that! The Gorean Master concerns himself with the development of his property, tries to understand what makes the kajira ‘tick’ and indirectly does all that is within his grasp for her to blossom her femininity and become her best self!

It is a guiding line in the stories, that a Gorean Master truly likes to understand how the kajira thinks and gets to know his property in a much deeper level than any “earth man” ever gets to know his wife.

I borrowed the following excerpt from a text that I believe describes quite well this:

The Gorean Master

The Master is a strong man, a dominant man. He is sure of himself, confident in his place in society and in His Homestone. He cherishes females, revels by their presence. He is giving, caring, loving and understanding. When the Master takes on the responsibility of owning a kajira, He discovers her, learns to know her inside and out, and slowly possesses her. He gently pushes her, always ready to show her that she is strong, that her limits are not what she believes them to be, that she can be taken farther. In this, the Master reveals to the kajira her own confidence, her own levels of self esteem, and all the beauty that she holds within.

As the Master learns his new kajira, an understanding takes place. He senses her desires, her needs, her passions. With this new knowledge, the Master takes care of the kajira, always giving what the kajira needs, but not necessarily what she presumes she needs, or thinks she wants.

It is the Master’s responsibility to care for, protect and love his kajira. If she is sick, he will see that she is cared for. If she is exhausted, he will allow her to rest, stroking her hair as she does so. If she is scared, he will comfort her. If she needs affection, he will hold her. These things, he does willingly, because he knows her and loves her (although few Masters will ever admit this to their kajirae). He understands her as no one else does. He has seen into her soul, and held it in his hand. Her mind is his, to read, to know. Her body is his to feel, and enjoy. Her heart is his to caress, and she becomes his true possession.

The Master does not take away the kajira’s identity, but allows her to grow into her own being, her own likeness. Her commitment to her Master is not a vehicle of punishment or hatred, but one of love and development. The kajira is given the room to come into her own, under her Master’s care, like a flower that flourishes under the sun’s warmth, the kajira radiates from his love and devotion. She becomes a rose; a beautiful being that knows she is loved and cared for.

There is the profile of a Master: strong, able, confident, loving, caring, encouraging, and gentle. “What about punishment and discipline?” you may be asking. Punishment is handed out lovingly yet firmly. The Master should not punish out of anger, there is no place for anger with punishment. The Master should discipline only for the sake of teaching. Punishment and discipline need not be physical: it can be psychological It is not done out of harshness or hostility, it is done out of love and forgiveness, although strict and demanding.

The Gorean kajira

The kajira is a woman, firm in her femininity, strong in her commitment, and solid in her spirit. she offers herself to her Master freely, of her own choosing. The kajira gives the gift of her slavery in exchange for his protection, care and love. she is obedient because she chooses to be, not because she is forced to be. her first priority is pleasing her Master. she willingly does whatever he asks in order to meet his desires.

The kajira comes to her Master unsure of her place in her Master’s world. With His guidance, she quickly learns what is expected of her. With this learning, she begins to give more and more of her self, of her mind, of her body, of her spirit, and of her soul, until she has given her all to her Master. There is no power given up, no control taken away. The kajira is intelligent, and strong. she has a spirit that is worthy of serving her Master as a slave, and learns to focus her spirit and her energy only in those direction which are pleasing to her Master. An immense measure of trust is built between the two, and the highest levels of respect are earned as well: The kajira must trust her Master completely in order to give him so much of herself and the Master must trust the kajira in order for him to accept it.

The “Training” of the kajira is the journey or the process of learning what the Master desires. Some of this journey is met with joy and happiness for both, but like any worthwhile journey, there are also times when the road is rough and long. These are the times when the Master’s strength and the kajira’s strength are needed the most. The Master does not travel this road out of a sense of cruelty or for a desire to beat his kajira, nor does the kajira travel this road out of fear of beatings, or of being caste from her Master’s Homestone, she does these things because she wants to: she aims to please her Master in all ways possible, because of her love and commitment to her Master, and He because of His love and commitment to her. Even the most “bratty” female comes to know just what is expected of her and what her Master’s needs are, and will strive to meet His every expectation of her. her spirit may in play push her Master just so far, but to exceed that limit would be to displease her Master, something a true kajira will always attempt to avoid. And even the most strict of all Masters will make certain His kajira knows what is expected of her at all times.

The kajira seemingly has no responsibilities, no thoughts of her own, and to many are seen as less than human, but a deeper observation shows otherwise. It could be said, and has been said by many, that the Master holds all the responsibilities; however, many of the kajira’s responsibilities are subtle enough to be overlooked. It is said on Gor that her only responsibility is to please her Master. This is a simple statement that holds so much importance, and so much more than it might seem at first. Pleasing a true Gorean Master is not easy, nor is it meant to be.

A Master will not only push the limits of His kajira like often happens in the BDSM arena, but will delve into her world, and love her enough to show her all she can be there as well. Opening this part of her life, and soul is often more than the average submissive is willing to do. But, if it was easy, all submissives would be kajira.

Very few submissives have the strength or commitment to serving with such intensity. This intensity comes from the amount of faith the kajira has in her Master. she must believe and trust that what he does is for her own good and never question his motives. If he orders her to do something she will do so happily, and without embarrassment, because that is what her Master wants. The kajira will not harbor any resentments or guilt from this action, and trusts that her Master knows what is best for them B/both. The kajira learns to never anticipate her Master’s actions or desires, but she may ask if he does desire a particular action or item before she does it or retrieves it for him.

The Master, on the other hand, must always be certain that what He is ordering is truly what is best for His kajira and that He is not demanding more from her than she can give, or working to destroy His prized possession with ego driven desires.

Even though a Master has the right to treat His kajira any way He wants, if He wishes to be honored and respected by Others, and keep His slave(s), He will treat each of them as an honorable Man.

Although many do not understand and accept the Gorean lifestyle, and claim that it is based on books that are not reality, for those who have taken the time to learn and understand this way of life, being kajira is a wonderful role to live with the right Master.

With him, she will grow emotionally and spiritually into her soul. she will become what she is deep within, and learn to love freely and unconditionally. The Master also becomes the man he feels within his soul and the two will share a journey that will take them out of the realms and limits of any society and into the timeless dimensions of the Multiverse.”

Much more could be said, but after this amazing text, I’ll keep all other comments to future posts because all that needs to be said is that Gorean Masters are not egoist or egocentric. A kajira serves unconditionally and a Gorean Master cares compassionately!

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What it is to be Gorean – Part 4 ([Female] slavery)

Tal everyone,

In case you arrived directly to this post, I strongly suggest you read the previous ones in this series:

Being such a complex and sometimes controversial subject, slavery cannot be analysed in a simplistic or shallow way. Therefore, I’ll approach it first by framing/describing what is written in the Books of Gor, so of course not everything that happens in the Books can happen the same way in our society, but we’ll analyse that later.

In Gor, slavery is an integral part of the society, being accepted, recognized and enforced by all members of the society. The female slave is called kajira (plural kajirae) and the male slave is called kajirus (plural kajiri).

For more detailed analysis of what is a kajira, I recommend reading the following posts about kajirae:

I won’t get into much detail describing the role of a kajira (as that is being done at length in other posts), but it is important to focus that Gorean is a patriarcal society and “reenacts” life as was lived by humans through millennia following the concept of “Natural Order”. This means that Goreans believe that both sexes have distinct roles and that either of them can only feel fulfilled when acting according to their natural roles of Master and slave.

Commonly though, I am asked about male slavery and if Goreans don’t accept that males can be submissive and females dominant, because in the books there are accounts of occasional situations where a female played a “dominant” role (the infamous Tatrix of Tarna is one example) or where males were slaves (Tarl Cabot himself was enslaved at one point in the story).

Before dwelling in any deeper analysis, it is important to reiterate that as stories can’t be read at literal face value and that we must understand the principles that support the Gorean Philosophy before making any overarching conclusions based on isolated stories/quotes.

Although the books recognise the existence of male slavery, it has a very different role in the philosophy from that of female slavery and we must review all the information before jumping into the conclusion that male slavery is endorsed by the Books.

Let’s start by analysing some points regarding the female slave (kajira) considering what is the common line in the stories and therefore supports the “principle” behind this:

  • Females reach their full potential after being enslaved when they “blossom” and “slave fires” are ignited in their bellies;
  • The enslavement of a female is connoted as being a “goal”, something without which the female is incomplete;
  • Free women are often depicted as being bitter and envious of kajirae
  • As stated often in the books, free women are priceless and thus, in a sense, without value or worthless, but on the other hand, kajirae have value, a specific value, depending on what men were willing to pay for them;
  • The enslavement of a woman is considered something permanent and irreversible, considering the Gorean Saying that states “it is only a fool who frees a slave girl”;
    • This is well explained in a quote from Book 28 – Kur of Gor: “As an extreme example, let us suppose that the daughter of a household is captured, carried away, and enslaved. Then, let us suppose that she, say, through exchanges, buyings and sellings, and such, is recovered by her family. They will not free her, but, disowning her, will keep her as a slave, as any other slave in the house. She will serve as any other slave, and, as any other slave, if her work is not satisfactory, will be lashed. (…) She is now only goods. It is the Gorean way.
    • Another good example of this is the case of Talena, daughter of Marlenus of Ar. Cutting the story short, buy asking to be purchased (and therefore released from the panther girls that had captured her), she inadvertently declared herself a slave. This resulted that her own father (that moved mountains in the attempt to recover her) disowned her. And even after Tarl Cabot (in one of his episodes of falter in abiding to the Gorean Principles) released her and had her returned to her father, she was not returned to her former glory as is stated in book 10 – Tribesmen of Gor: “When Talena, the daughter of Marlenus of Ar, Ubar of Ar, had, in a missive to him, begged her freedom, he had, on his sword and on the medallion of Ar, sworn against her the oath of disownment. As a consequence, she was no longer of high birth, no longer his daughter. I had had Samos free her and transmit her to Ar. There she lived, free but of no status; she was no longer recognized, in the sight of its Home Stone, as a citizen of Ar; she had not even the collar of a slave girl for her identity; she was kept sequestered by Marlenus in the central cylinder, that his shame not be publicly displayed upon the high bridges of the city.”

None of these situations applies to male slaves. In the books we mainly find report of two kinds of kajirus, the “draft slaves” and the “silk slaves”.

Starting with the draft slaves, these are “ordinary men”, just like any free man, with all the “manly instincts”, etc. with just the difference that either due to being in the loosing side of a war or being unable to pay debts, they are enslaved and submitted to hard works (in many cases for a predetermined period of time). We can say that in their core they are still Masters that for a period of time are deprived of the power to ennact their Mastery.

What about the “silk slaves”, often referred to as “tamed”? These are “docile” men, deprived of their “manly instincts”, tamed to serve submissively and please women. On the first look, these might look just like a male version of the typical female slave giving reason to those who claim that in the Gorean Philosophy both genders can be submissive, but let’s take a closer look in 2 main points:

  • Unlike kajirae that are connoted as being the zenith/apogee of femininity in a woman “silk slave” kajirus are described as not being fully men, as missing something, as not following their natural course;
  • Unlike kajirae (that can never truly become free again after tasting the collar on their neck and the slave fires in their bellies), even “silk slave” kajirus can “revert” to their “manhood” at any time (becoming fully fledged Masters) and most women that own them “fear”/”desire” this possibility as is well described in the following quote from Book 14 – Fighting Slave of Gor: “I did not tell them that I came from a world in which almost all the males were perfectly tamed, indeed, a world in which males were supposed to pride themselves on their inoffensiveness and agreeability. “I do not trust Kajiri,” said the first woman. “They can revert. Can you imagine how fearful that might be, if one turned on you?” The second one shuddered, but I thought with pleasure. “Yes,” she said. “Consider your danger, and what they might make you do,” said the first. “Yes,” said the second. “They might treat you as though you were little better than a slave.” “Or perhaps as only a slave,” said the second. “How horrifying that would be,” said the first. “Yes,” said the second, but it seemed to me that she, beneath her robes and veil, shuddered again with pleasure.

From the analysis of all the Books of Gor, it is then safe to say that:

  • As a common Gorean Saying states: “All free women are merely uncollared slaves”
  • “Silk slave” kajiri are described as only men that have not released their manhood but can at any moment “revert” to their natural state.

In conclusion, by carefully analysing all the stories and the underlying Philosophy, it becomes self evident that the Gorean Philosophy does not support the idea that men can have a submissive role. Gorean society is inherently patriarcal in which men are the natural Masters and females the natural slaves.

As an afterword and anticipating some usual backslash when this topic is addressed, let me state that the views expressed in this post (as always) are my personal perspectives and this is an analysis of things through a Gorean Philosophy perspective and in no way it is supposed to be understood as a value judgement on anyone that thinks differently. Each person lives their life the way they choose and just because I state that something is not correct or in accordance with the Gorean Philosophy that should never be understood as a critic or judgement toward those that live that way. In my perspective it is their way of living, which is perfectly fine, it just can’t be called Gorean (or in accordance with the Gorean Philosophy).

As always, feel free to share, comment and send me your feedback that is invaluable to continue to improve the content of this blog for all those that desire to understand better what is the Gorean Philosophy and Lifestyle!

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What it is to be Gorean – Part 3 (Principles)

Tal everyone,

In case you arrived directly to this post, I strongly suggest you read the previous ones in this series:

By definition a principle is “a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behaviour or for a chain of reasoning”. If you agree with or believe something in principle, you agree with the idea in general, although you might not support it in reality or in every situation.

Some days ago I read a comment in one of my posts where someone mentioned that in a religion you follow strict rules/dogmas but on the other hand in a philosophy you have to understand the guidelines and discover for yourself the best way to apply it.

This comment was quite precise considering that Gorean lifestyle is based on a philosophy that on its turn is based on principles.

In one general sense, philosophy is associated with wisdom, intellectual culture, and a search for knowledge. In this sense, all cultures and literate societies ask philosophical questions, such as “how are we to live” and “what is the nature of reality.” A broad and impartial conception of philosophy, then, finds a reasoned inquiry into such matters as reality, morality, and life.

Gorean Philosophy therefore is the global set of concepts that help us navigate our life and make decisions in accordance with the mindset of the Natural Order.

The issue here is that those concepts come to us not in a “plain” and “clear” way with a list of what you can and cannot do. Using Christianism as a comparison, in the Old Testament everything was quite simple, Jews had rules for everything they could and could not do (there were over 600 commandments, so the Ten Commandments were just the tiny tip of the iceberg)! On the other hand, in the New Testament, Jesus used a different approach and although he laid down some basic rules, most of his teaching was done using stories and parables.

The author of the Gorean Saga Books devoted his life to the study of human mindset and has published several amazing books under his true name (John Lange), from which I recommend everyone should read “The Philosophy of Historiography“.

Nevertheless, in the Books of Gor we read stories that transmit to us the principles of the philosophy and only by reading them (in case I haven’t made that clear in the previous post) can we gradually absorve the different nuances and grasp the concepts that will help us judge each different situation and make the decision that we consider is more appropriate.

Often when talking with people that don’t totally understand the philosophy I hear them defend actions that go against the Gorean Philosophy and defending their point by stating that they read once in a book that a certain character did that!!!

It is important that we keep in mind that in all stories there are heroes and villains. Just because Joker likes to wreak havoc, that does not mean the Batman story is about that! Hell, even “heroes” are human and make “less than perfect” decisions so just because the “hero” of a story on a specific occasion takes a certain action that does not qualify it as being something that defines him or that he condones in every situation.

The “main character” of the books is Tarl Cabot (at least in the first ones before the author started diversifying the roles), but even he has ups and downs, helping us understand the inner struggles all of us go through in life! Just because Tarl Cabot once did something that does not qualify that action as part of the “Gorean Philosophy”, you have to understand the framework of the situation, what is the point that is being transmitted, etc, etc, etc…

In the following posts I will try to list what (in my personal point of view) are some of the principles that guide the Gorean Philosophy (Female slavery, Honor, etc.)! Feel free to send me your comments and contribution!

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What it is to be Gorean – Part 2 (Origins)

Tal everyone,

Continuing this series of posts, I believe it is important before anything else to review (and define) the origins of the Gorean Lifestyle.

Gor is a fiction world depicted in a series of books that has become the longest-running fiction series ever existed. The first book was published in 1966 and the 35th on 2019.

The author of this series is John Lange that publishes his fiction work under the alias John Norman and his non-fiction work covers philosophy, ethics and historiography.

You can learn more about John Norman and the “Books of Gor” saga in the following posts:

The “Book of Gor” saga is a crescendo of detailed stories occurring in the planet Gor, also known as “Counter Earth”. I use the word crescendo intentionally because the books start by focusing on more generic and “practical” topics and gradually evolve into a much more rich analysis of the human mindset, description of life following the “Natural Order” and interesting new ways of depicting scenarios that not only expose the fallacy of modern days society mindset, but also amazing descriptions of the natural inner conflicts, questions, doubts, etc. that we all go through in our life.

Let me say here that for me it is critical that the books are read in the order they were published! Although there is a handful of books that might be read independently without spoiling the storyline and the evolution of the narrative, only if you effectively read them all in order can you in fact gradually absorve all the concepts and principles that are implicit in Gorean life.

This is particularly relevant considering that Gorean Lifestyle is not based on rules but on principles, which is quite simple and at the same time extremely complicated. There is no list of everything you can or cannot do, there is no detailed set of actions to be performed in specific situations, etc.

Many “cultures” / “streams” (both the ones focused on “sessions” and the ones focused on 24/7 lifestyle) work with very detailed scripts and rules. This results in very elaborate and sometimes complex things like “High Protocols”/“Low Protocols”, hierarchies among slaves with specific actions/tests that have to be achieved in order for the slave to “evolve” in the “path”, etc.

This does not exist in Gor, what you have are stories from which YOU have to distill the core principles and find ways to apply them to our life! Keep in mind, the Gorean Lifestyle, as the name states quite obviously is a way of life.

This way of life is based on the description of life in the planet Gor, but this description cannot be applied directly to our life on Earth. It would be wonderful if that was possible, but unfortunately (at least for now) that is an utopia.

Why is that, you might ask?

The simple answer is that the society described in the Books lives under a set of rules and principles that abide by and enforce what is called the “Natural Order”, recognizing and enforcing slavery, etc.

These sets of rules and principles conflict in many ways with the rules, principles and laws of the societies we live in. If the conflict is with a “soft rule”, this means that we can find ways to “bend” it and live our lifestyle as ideally as we want depending only in how open we want to be about it (and if we have the structure to face occasional criticism). But when the conflict is with a “hard rule” / law, then that is a definitive limit that cannot be passed!

To give a radical example, in GOR slave life’s have no value (other that the commercial value of the property they are), so a slave can be killed if the Master so decides and no one will think twice about it. It is unthinkable for a Gorean on Earth to apply that to his Lifestyle and if anyone does try to live by that in our society, he obviously cannot be called a Gorean but suffers from serious pathological problems.

This being said, the Gorean Lifestyle is based on the Books, period! The lifestyle is based on all the principles depicted along the whole series and only by reading the books you can absorve all the concepts, all the mindsets, all the subliminal information that is passed in each story.

I will repeat it again in case I wasn’t obvious the first time: You have to read the books!!!

You have many information in the Internet that is wonderful to review details, to answer some questions, etc. and the goal of this blog is exactly to help in the process, but no blog, Wiki, FAQ or whatever can ever replace the actual reading of the books (yes, all of them and ideally in order).

In the next posts I’ll start to analyze some of the pillars that define what it is to live according to the Gorean Lifestyle. In the meanwhile, continue to read the books!!! 😉 😉 😉

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